What I would tell my 16 year old self

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You are extremely close to your circle of best friends. You spend all your time together and tell each other everything. Ony 1 of them will remain your friend in adult hood.

You are difident and don’t have much to say. Mum says you are just a sensitive child. You don’t know it yet but when you grow up people will called you an extrovert. You will also end up with a job which sometimes requires you to speak in front of large groups of people.

You are deeply in love❤ with the boy in your neighbourhood. You think about him all the time. You have scrawled his name on all your school books and his initials on your jeans. He doesn’t know you exist.

Though you are being raised in a Muslim household, you take your religion for granted. You don’t go to the Mosque, pray or fast. In fact the only time you go to the Mosque is during Ramadan and only because your friend Yasmin convinces you that it is ok to go and eat the free food even though neither of you is fasting. When you grow up you will encounter irreverance and Islamophobia. You will come across people that will oppugn your faith. You will turn to the Quran, Islamic literature and the Hadiths for verification. The more you read the more Islam will make sense until you fall in love with the beauty of your faith. Every once in a while, you will wonder what happened to Yasmin.

You are brought up to be polite, trusting and honest. As a grown up, you will meet people your age who are confident and who know it all. Much more than you do. You will also meet people who are dishonest and untrustworthy. You willl wish you had been less sheltered. It will take you to be thrown in the the deep end for you to learn how to survive. You will survive.

You feel people like to look at you which makes you uncomfortable, adding to your shyness and anxiety. You will join a drama class and meet a Teacher who will change your life. She will force you to go in front of the class and perform. From then on you will take people looking at you in your stride. You will learn it’s a positive and not a negative. You will gain confidence and walk with your head held high.

You live in a lively bustling family home with mum, dad and siblings. You feel overwhelmed sometimes and wish you had your own space. When you grow up you will live on your own. You will have your own space. You will wish for your lively bustling family home.

You are a middle child, you lack attention and you feel neglected. It will be a slow process but you will make peace with yourself and your parents. You will face your demons and realise there are none.

You wonder if you will ever meet anyone special. You will find meaninful love. Twice.

Maybe because you are a shy child or because you feel neglected you develop a vivid imagination. You dream of far away countries and wonder what they would be like. You would never believe if anyone told you that as a grown up, you would clock up the air miles. You would travel to all the countries you used to dream of and many more.

You believe everything an adult says to be the gospel truth. When you grow up, you will learn that adults don’t know everything. Even your parents.

You constantly worry what people think of you. One day, you will learn that what people think of you is none of your business.


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